We told her no more running around the house. She’s decided to take this on board, she’s now skipping…
The wife thinks she may have some issues with balance etc. But i’m not too fussed. She’s accident prone and I think we’re just unlucky to have two decent sized ones in one week. She’s also scheduled to have her tooth taken out on Friday, which we’ve delayed for an extra few weeks.
The coming out wasn’t too bad. Didn’t realise how out of it she was until she wanted to walk over to look at the fish tank and almost stacked it. The first time she cried was when they took the tape for the canular out. That was like a switch and she was crying pretty much the whole time till she got home.
She’s definitely on the mend, but you can see she’s not 100% there mentally. Keeps on having what looks like, mini-panic attacks
My kids are pretty tough. They get bumps, bruises, cuts, abrasions day in day out and barely a whimper. My daughter could lop her arm off and she’d stagger over to me, and just ask me to “kiss it better, daddy”.
Unless they’re tired. Then they go down more dramatically than Berisha in the box in the last minute of a grand final and howl like a banshee.
We live in a complex with a shared yard that is full of kids playing when the weather is good. I was out there supervising my lot today and, with my eldest on a swing that someone had put up over the weekend. One of the older residents walks past and I say hello as she does. My youngest needs to go to the toilet so I quickly take him inside and leave the older one there on the swing with his mate. No dramas.
I come back around 5 mins later and walk past the first lady who is chatting to 2 other residents. She asks me if i put the swing up and knowing exactly where the convo is going i said, “i dont know who did it but ill take it down now.” I walk over to the boys and my son tells me that when i was inside the lady who id just spoken to took a photo of them.
At this point my wife is walking past and gets wind of whats going on. Shes furious and makes a bee line for the lady who pretends not to hear her calling out and runs inside her entry.
Why the fuck would you not just say something as you walk past the first time? And also, who takes photos of other peoples kids without consent?
When I moved into this place one of my neighbours had young kids who would occasionally be on mini bikes riding around the reserve that we live next to.
You know what I said?
Nothing.
Anyone with school-age kids want to share their opinion on schools’ “permission to publish”?
When our oldest started school, we went on the cautious side and did not give consent. Now she is expressing more and more unhappiness at being left out of things when photos are taken — a major recent example is that a magician came for Book Week, and she wasn’t allowed to volunteer to go on stage, but also just more generally when they have photos taken in class for the newsletter. Apparently there is only one other kid in the class without permission.
She’s still young and I think I would rather stay unconsented, but I do feel bad that she is missing out and I guess the risks of anything bad happening as a result are probably extremely low. I’d be more comfortable if the newsletters were only made available to parents/carers (with separate permission for ‘promotional’ content that’ll be public); they have an app they use for this, but they also post them on the school website. I understand why they don’t want the hassle of a two-level consent process, but I find it ironic that the newsletters always include a link to the eSafety website, which includes advice not to post photos of your kid in school uniform to social media.
Thoughts? Even if just to tell me I am being too much of a handwringer…
How many pedos are going to be trawling primary school newsletters for jerk off material?
It was something we spoke about loads when they went to school ( we said no at preschool)
We decided to let their pictures be used when they got to Kindy… we leant toward the “how many freaks are going to be trawling the school facebook?” compared to them feeling Different when events and visitors come to the school.
Thats just us though, completely see the other side of it to keep their images of social media
Well yeah, that’s why I said extremely low, even if I was thinking of a bit of a different risk. Mrs had a scary stalking situation when she was in school. And I imagine it’s much easier these days to find more info about a random kid you might see in your neighbourhood.
Look, there’s always a risk, and the school social media pages are public so anyone can see the photos, but unless you’re in an area heavy with individuals that need to register their address, I would suspect the distress your eldest is experiencing is likely to be worse than the risk of anything happening to her.
Its a tough line to walk mate - and in the end youve just gotta go with your gut on this. If you’re worried, keep the no permission active. She might miss the occasional opportunity, but if you think its worth it, then its worth it.
Just on this, a couple of months ago I took my class on an excursion (I’m a Year 1 teacher).
All going well, until someone starts taking pictures of the kids. The bloke had a proper camera and was clearly a tourist as he was taking pics of landmarks and tourist attractions.
Obviously had a word with him and asked him to delete the pics. He was apologetic but what gives someone the idea they can photograph children?
Most people aren’t thinking of dodgy shit when they are out doing stuff. He’s seen a bunch of kids having fun somewhere nice and thought it looked like a good photo.
I’m into photography and although I generally don’t try and photograph people in general, let alone kids, they sometimes do make a photo better having them in the scene. I will go and have a chat to the parents though, show them the image and make sure they are happy with me keeping it. I also offer to email it to them if they want a copy. Don’t think I’ve ever had anyone ask me to delete and they almost always want a copy.
Yeah absolutely. I have no doubt it was nothing sinister.
My second daughter is starting daycare, ive taken a few pics of her to put my wife at ease. Not easy to keep the others out of frame. And of course some of the best stuff is in observing interactions with others
I typically consent to the publish stuff (albeit only preschool). The way I see it social media is a hundred times worse (ugh aunts or grandfolk etc posting FB videos). I definitely want my kids to try extracurricula activities, academic olympiads, sports or whatever. Gotta get used to that stuff being in newsletters
This actually blew me away…
“But photographs where no-one is compromised in that way, so long as somebody is not physically trespassing, there’s very little you can do to stop them taking a photo of them.”
When I was living in Belgium, I didn’t know, but they have very strict privacy laws,. You’re only allowed to have photos showing people’s faces if you have their permission, even if they are in a busy place, like in front of a landmark. Some guy once got angry at me because I photographed a building he happened to be standing in front of and told me to delete the photo, had no idea of the law until then.
Happy Fathers Day to all us Dads out there 
