My wife’s BFF is seriously killing me at the moment. She had a secret marriage ceremony a few months ago (which we were invited) and she’s now planning a “surprise” wedding for a whole bunch of people. She’s roped my wife into going dress shopping with her (apparently she needs two dresses).
They were meant to go a few weeks ago, but delayed. In short, my wife hit her up asking for times as we’ve got two kids, they want to go shopping on Sat and I also play soccer, so we need to organise grandparents to help out with the kids as soon as possible. She couldn’t figure out the times she wanted to go then, so she delayed to this Sat. The problem is we still don’t have any times set. No clue if it’s going ahead, Grandparents are wanting to know what they’re doing with their day, I want to know what i’m doing, but her friend is currently under radio silence.
Your wife needs a new friend.
Ive never seen a more screwed up relationship. They text each other to meet and then don’t text back the other person until well after the day they were meant to meet. The friend will be at least an hour late to any event and there’s been times where they were meant to meet up but the other person wasn’t 100% sure if it was going ahead, even 5 minutes before the meet up…
It continues on with the wider group of female friends though (about 20 of them). Most have kids, families etc. They plan a catchup at least once a month. Kid free, at a restaurant in the evening etc. Instead of just choosing a day, they leave it up to a voting consensus. Then they vote on the time, then they vote on what they want to do and then they vote on the specific location. It takes them so long to organise. They then can’t make a final decision 9 times out of 10 because there won’t be a clear majority decision, so they um and ahh for days on what to do…
Nothing more frustrating to watch and hear about. If it was up to me, I’d just set up a recurring date for catchups and then maybe just change the location every few days.
People without kids frequently fail to understand the time demands of people with kids. Hell, my wife gets shitty at her sister (1 kid) for not understanding time demands of 2 kids. No, we cant go the pub for dinner at a days notice. We are going to a baby shower (first baby for a friend) this weekend and the mother to be only just changed her mind to say kids were allowed at all, this morning.
and thats why you don’t have kids. Much easier to plan things
Without being THAT guy, not having kids also adds to massive population problems, especially trying to support an aging population that can’t work…
Have a less xenophobic immigration policy then. Problem solved.
This world does not need more people.
so the young people from overseas come here and I guess it’s whichever country they come from that has to deal with the older people left?
Having kids has been the best decision of my adult life.
Stress, sleep deprivation, and financial issues aside, I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Who the fuck doesn’t allow children at a baby shower?
I’m not a parent and don’t want kids but even I think that’s stupid.
Having kids because The Economy™ demands it, is not a particularly compelling argument.
One for mum…
One for dad…
And one for fuckin’ Straya!
I think you want the right number of kids, to sustain the economy. You don’t want explosive and unsustainable growth as you do in Asia, but you do want enough so that you’re not going to be left with an eventual generation that will be working purely to pay for the expenses of the older generation. Japan is currently having huge issues with their aging population.
When my GF emerged in tears from the mouldy bathroom in our tiny 1 bedroom inner city apartment with 2 stripes on the tester and said, ‘Im pregnant,’ my immediate thoughts were how good this was going to be for the economy.
Shame.
Shoulda snapped round and fired back:
“Hi pregnant. I’m Dad”
To be fair I was quite busy ripping bongs and playing Arkham Asylum
“High Dad. I’m pregnant”.
Yeah no i get that.
I also distinctly remember growing up through primary school and high school all the boomers around me stating “If you can’ t afford to raise children, you shouldn’t have them”. Seems like people might have taken their advice.
All Ponzi schemes have to stop sooner or later.